Respect, how to give and get it!

To treat with esteem is to give respect, according to Webster. Respect is craved by most, could it be that we need to be validated and valued? How does this happen, first of all everyone should be valued as a human being. The next time you see a homeless person, please look at them and acknowledge their existence. Something happened in that person’s life. Make their day with a smile or a nod. Let them know that they matter and you see them. Things happen, medical, financial, addictions and mental health issues. Many times it just takes one thing to push them over the edge. Be grateful for the people in your life that keep you off the edge.

I have worked with and for many people. Working with others is not always easy. There are different skill sets and personalities involved. The best solution is to get everyone on the same page. One of my rules is to always tell the truth. If I don’t know the answer, the correct response is ” I don’t know but I will find out.” Never, never pretend to know, when you don’t. People always know the truth. I have been in management positions many times and the key to success has been to get everyone working for the same goal. If they do a good job, it makes you look good. When they do a good job, reward them in ways that matter to them. Get to know your team and what is important to them. Never say no, if a yes can work. Most people want to do a good job, some times they just don’t know how. It’s your job to guide them. We always want to be recognized. Respect them for what they can do for your team and you. Never treat employees as if they have to do it, because you say so. That only works with children, some of the time. The people you are working with have lives outside of the job and they put that other life on hold, while doing their best for you. Please keep that in mind. If it all ends tomorrow, how do you want to be remembered? You could be that s.o.b. or the best boss they’ve ever had. It’s your choice.

If you think you are better than them, you are not. Get over it and move on. Learn to appreciate your staff. The truth is you are not better than anyone, you just got the job. Now, you need to prove they made the right choice. Your staff can be your ticket to success, it all depends on you. Give what you want to receive.

I have noticed more and more that drivers are not using their turn signals. That is a form of disrespect. How will they know what you are planning to do.We can’t yell out the window, this is our only way to communicate our next move. I’ve been driving for many years and not once has my turn signal stopped working. If I want to exit or just move to another lane, how will they know what I’m trying to do, if I don’t tell them? Just think about it, it will be safer for all on the roads. Be courteous, it always goes back to treating people the way you want to be treated.

Life is not always easy and sometimes, we can get more with honey than vinegar. Smile, be helpful, kind and know that people may not be in a good place. You can acknowledge the other person by just being respectful. Here’s an interesting concept, put someone else first. We can get so much more in this life, by giving in. There is victory in knowing when to give in. Next week, Patty’s Magic Kitchen WP_20160607_11_34_25_ProWP_20160617_16_39_26_Pro

Remember to Be Nice, Be Kind and Be of Service!

Pat Green